PATH TO BEHAVIORAL CHANGE
This is a list of things you can practice doing. Depend primarily on yourself but if you have a very supportive and positive person, he or she can be a mentor.
- Think about the bad feelings you have, and why you have them. They are your feelings, you own them and you can change them.
- For one week every day, think "I will change something to be a better person".
- Change the internal words that you think about which can lead to anger. When you change the words inside, you can change the spoken word. Words are most often the first point of expressed anger (the key to controlling behavior).
- Be determined to change the worst behavior that you display, i.e. stomping, swearing, throwing things, hollering, threatening, hitting and other aggressive behaviors.
- Replace worst behavior or expression with a good effort to do well, and say positive things.
- Strive to continue this positive effort whenever your mind reverts back to the comfort of negative expressions.
- Continue to improve in all environments and social settings (home, work place, and leisure).
- Recognize the good feelings you have and reward yourself with internal accolades.
Remember, controlling the behavior associated with anger can be difficult only because we never stop trying!